Advice needed please - past Relationships Post a Reply | Views: 682 | Started By: nice_girl | Replies: 7 Ok here's my question, any answer will be appreciated. My bf and I have been together for 3 yrs.  I've never had a previous relationship... and... I don't know if he had any!!  we've never talked about it. i don't know how to ask him that. I think we should know this things about each other. i mean, one part of me thinks,"doesn't matter what could have happened before, he's with you now" but other part of me is dying thinking that he may be comparing me, sometimes i feel jealous that he may had other girls in the past (i've never had sex, and i don't know if he did - we have a tacit agreement of chastity between us).  and other thing: we really love each other and we may very well end up getting married in a few years, but i can't stop thinking "i REALLY love him, he's really great, but what if there's someone better than him" i have no comparison point since he's my first love. help me please!!!!

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Pages:     1   2    Next     ou've made the decision together to not have sex without talking about it? How did you do that? I'm really curious. If you're thinking you're gonna marry this guy and you can't talk about sex or what past relationships you've had, then you need to get busy! I mean those are two REALLY minor things to be talked about. You're gonna need to talk about a LOT deeper stuff than that. That said, you don't need to get graphic or pry. You just would know what his love life has been like. Nothing wrong with that. And yes, I can understand that you might feel jealous, but NOT knowing doesn't help that at all, does it? As far as YOU go. Well, I think the question you need to ask yourself: "How else could you find out if there's someone better than him?" Not telling you what to do, but yes, I'd think before you marry him, you need to find out what else is out there. It may very well open your eyes and bring you to someone else, or right back TO him. Either way, you're going to be better off. Good luck Responded: brain   listen to brian...that is some good advice. Responded: Guest   I agree with Brian.  I think that communication is key.  You said you wanted to marry this guy or may want to marry him in a few years.  If you feel that way about this person, then you need to know that you can ask him these questions.  You need to feel comfortable enough with him to ask him these things, and, if you are not comfortable enough to ask him these things, then how will you ask him the bigger questions later on. Responded: zephyra   If you feel this confused, then you need to take a step back and ask yourself some big questions.  You also need to sit down and talk to him about some of your concerns. NOT talking about these things is going to only cause more tension between the two of you. Just ask your questions in a way that doesn't put him on the defensive.  on't accuse him of anything, and don't push him for information he might not be ready to offer right now.  Good Luck Responded: Guest   i like a girl very much! she is no beautiful BUT i find something from her.but her father is so angry wif me leh!i got ask her "canu be my gf" ,she answer me cannot!BUT i love u forever!!!! Responded: nik   Pages:     1   2    Next