Do we still have a future? Post a Reply | Views: 631 | Started By: Shaun | Replies: 6 Hi all I'm hoping for some advice here! About 18 months ago, I met this girl online. We dated, and she ended up coming to my house every weekend as she lived and worked some distance away. I was more smitten early in the relationship, and we agreed that she would move in if she could find a teaching job in my area. However, a few months down the line, I didnt find her as attractive any more and started comparing her to other girls I would see in the street and getting envious of other guys with a nicer looking girlfriend that mine. My dilema is that this girl is very caring, will do anything for me and is smart but I don't feel there is much of a spark. And she has recently moved in because I didnt want to hurt her. But I have lost touch with some of my friends having spent almost every weekend with her. Do you think that looks are important in a relationship, especially as we are both in our twenties? I'm sure it would be different if we were a lot older and looks were less important. I do feel comfortable with her, and I worry that if we split I might regret it later. Any comments?! Thanks, and all the best.

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Pages:     1   2    Next     If she's as sweet as you say she is,I say stay with her. In an ideal situation, she'd be both beautiful and sweet...but guess what? Over the years, looks fade. As a rule by the time you're as old as you are,personality stays pretty much like it is. Now, would you rather wind up with a "hottie" whose looks are the only thing going for her...or someone who's not as georgeous,but who has a great personality which will probably stay that way? Give me personality any time. Responded: Guest   I agree looks are nice but personality has to be #1. It is okay to look but not touch (others). What troubled me about your issue is that if you are doing things just to "not hurt her" that is a really wrong reason. That may prolong the relationship but eventually it will still end only with more bitterness. As you get older you will realize more that in a muture relationship... someone will always end up hurt and more then likely both parties will end up hurt. Responded: shine   Everyone says looks shouldn't be important, but in reality they are.  However, I think you can love someone and want someone and find them attractive in some way, even if you recognize that this person is not beautiful. If you feel passion for this girl and want to be with her, then I say be with her.  If you are attracted to her, the relationship is worth it.  However, if you have no romantic or sexual feelings for her, you need to end it.  It's not fair to you or her to keep things going if you feel nothing.   Tara Responded: Tara   look matters! not that she has to be super-model looking,but something about her should attract you,and feel that there is sexual excitement besides the emotional comfort.  i've been in the same situation. i dates thisguy for a year,and we ended up living together. he was very caring,and we have always been good friends.  however, i was never quite attracted to him. graduately, our sex life got really bad. i just didn't want to get intimate with him anymore.  and i almost cheated on him cuz i just sexually so turned on by another guy. after we broke up,i finally realized that i wasted both of our time. Responded: Guest   dude stop being a little repressed bitch and go get some pu*** somewhere else!! just dont tell her!! Responded: Guest   Pages:     1   2    Next