i "trained" him...and he ran away Post a Reply | Views: 561 | Started By: yesDear | Replies: 2 i have known this guy for about 6 years and he was always just a hook up because he never wanted a girlfriend. after 6 long years he finally wanted to make things official with me and give the whole relationship a try. well, it was great in the beginning but all he thought about was himself...(not calling me for two days, being too busy playing video games, no x-mas present or card). well, we split b/c of that, then i made him realize that he needs to open up and he can be ready for a girlfriend, he just needs to change his thinking and his life schedule that he was used to...meaning that he only lived for himself. well then we got back together, and he slipped up and put me on the back burner for two days, and i called it off b/c i  knew he didn't change. I spent all this time making him understand that having someone in your life is not such a bad thing, and now he has someone in his life and she is getting all the good things i worked so hard trying to convince him to give. and we are friends now and we still talk but he is so happy with her and he tells me thank you for opening his eyes, and sorry for everything he should have done for me. i know it is still their between us, i can sense that when i talk to him, but what should i do? i guess long story short, she is not his type and is not the one for him, b/c i am. i should be the one getting all the benefits from the work i invested in him.

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wow this some shit considering all that you've done it seems to happen like that a lot the type you least expected he runs off with.  However my advice to you is to show him that not only he can move on you can to not only he can be happy so can you things dont stop because he decided to pick up something else and flaunt it. You need to find someone and flaunt that to ever here the saying never let them see you sweat.  Now you say you can sense he is still interested in you well that doesnt matter if he's not with you and by the way if all that you say is true that he's was not giving you what you want in a relationship that why would you want him back because the bottom line is if and i say if he has changed for this other chick and has not even thought twice about changing for you fuck him then again what you hear and see aint always whats up he may not have changed at all you know men tell you all you want to hear and he wants you to think well i've changed for her and not for you to stir up the underlying want you have for him.  You dont have the otherside of the story which is what does his girl think? Responded: chak   I know that this hurts you to see him with someone else.  But, why would you want to be in a relationship with a selfish "boy" who treats you with NO respect? Just because he tells you that he is  happy with the new girl doesn't mean that they are.  People don't change that drastically.  And he might change for a short time to get the new girl "hooked", but then he will fall back into his pattern of selfishness. You're not happy with him.  This particular one doesn't make you happy.  Why be in a negative relationship just to prove a point? If you want to continue being his friend fine, but get out there and find someone who makes you happy to be in a relationship with. Good Luck. Responded: Guest