Upcoming marriage ( defusing possible violence ) Post a Reply | Views: 558 | Started By: Glynis | Replies: 2 I'm 22 years old about a year ago me and my fiance were going to be married in three day's. I found out from a girlfriend of mine that he was seen with an ex-girlfriend of his at a restaurant. After that I broke off the marriage and moved back in with my parents. I had nothing to do with him and wouldn't answer his phone calls. Three weeks after we broke up I started an affair with an older man (51). I later moved in with him. We lived together for 4 months and I  became pregnant. I stayed with him for 5 more months after which I broke up with him. He asked me to marry him but I just didn't love him.  I ran into my ex-fiance a month later while shopping and we talked for about an hour. He asked me to dinner and I accepted. After seeing each other for two weeks (sexually to) he asked me to marry him again. I'm now 7 and a half months pregnanat and we're going to be married in a month from now. However I do still speak with the man that I lived with, after all I am having his baby. Whenever I mention him or discuss him having visitation rites my boyfriend (fiance) goes ballistic. I point out to him that if he hadn't seen his ex-girlfriend 3 day's before our marriage we wouldn't be in this situation. I told my now boyfriend that he has no rite to be angry with the father. Since they're going to be seeing each other for the next 18 years at least, I just want the two of them to get along. Hopefully even be friends.    Any advise on how to defuse this situation before something seriuos happens?

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I wouldn't expect the guys to be friends. All you can expect is your now boyfriend to be civil to the other guy. Unless this other guy does play a large part in the raising of your child then... don't expect him to be civil either. Its that damn male territory syndrome guys have in their genes. They like things that are special to them (eg: you and the baby) to be theirs and theirs alone. Anger is just one emotion that is going to come from this. I suggest you ease your mind and not dwell on it too much. You don't need that kind of stress while your pregnant and soon to be coping with a baby. Hopefully you get the right support from both men Responded: Tammy   u got pregnant with a 51 year old man & ur 22 o_O u nutz Responded: Thinkz u nutz