Taking final decision Post a Reply | Views: 301 | Started By: Fox | Replies: 5 We have been married for almost 2 years now. Everything seems to be o'k, but for one thing.. i hate him drunk! he becomes so stupidly silly when he drinks. I can't stand him. Truth to tell, I hate drunk people in general. And he is no exception.. I know he loves me very much,and I'm really attached to him, but this thing.....it irritatets me deeply. Almost every time he is drunk, we are about to fall out... I don't know, may be it's time to have a "break"... Or may be I'm tired and too nervous about it? Or may be when the two start quarreling and pointing to each others defects - there is no more love between them?. He is a good guy, but still, sometimes I'm beginning to hesitate.... if he's the right one for me. Please, help me to clear away.

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Lead him to AA !! Then take a break... Responded: Mik    Listen when people drink they mostly never are the same. You need to sit him down and let him know everything, and now that you think his drinking is affecting yuor relationship you need to let him know he needs to stop or your outta there. Maybe a drink here and there occassionally is alright. But if he really loves you he will see that his drinking habits and attitude when he drinks is hurting you and he needs to tame himself. Your lucky he doesn't get abusive, or maybe i just don't know that much. But in conclusion if he doesn't stop now and if you don't let him know the real deal now then it will go on and your only there to watch and linger. Do what you feel is right! If he rejects then take his ass to AA! Responded: Guest   I can/t say he's an alchohol addict, well, he drinks, as you say, "a little here and  alittle there" actually, as an ordinary guy. It's just that sometimes he goes too far, and it's useless trying to speak with him when he's "done it". The most stupid thing is that the next day it somehow becomes irrelevant talking 2 him- he's the good guy again, and I feel no anger any more... I talked to him about it, he agrees. The fact is that when he's with me, no matter where we are - he never "exceeds the bounds", -it's when he is out with his friends (of some of which I have not a high opinion), actually it all depends on what company he is in... But trying to make a guy give up his friends is a stupid and absurd thing, I'm sure.. Responded: Fox   first off that reply take him to AAA is retarted you want some real advice here is what you do. its not a break you need because you guys are not fighting regulary just when he gets drunk you get irrated how is he when its only you and him drinking? talk to him when your somber explaint o him how much you love him and tell him whats bothering you communication is the ruite of all evel in all relationships if your able to talk to him and tell him how you feel that means he may be the right one. have a conversation go out to diner or sotmhing and just let him know how you feel dont be mean dont yell at him  just talk to him and make him listn and make him understand maybe he just doesnt relize his limit but talk to him and let me know what happends Responded: Guest   Thanks you all very much for understanding, I think I'll follow your advice.. Responded: Fox