How do you ask for Kissing? Post a Reply | Views: 748 | Started By: Helen | Replies: 2 I need some help here... I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years now, he is the the first guy i've ever been with (we both are in out twenties).  I love him. He loves me (i know that). We really love each other, but.... it is difficult for him to express his affection for me.  Almost all the time, i am the one who starts the kissing.  I would like him to take the initiative more often (when he does it's great), to be the giver more than the receiver. I like passionate kisses, i'm dying for him to kiss my neck...  i tried to kiss his neck casually but it tickles him too much (i think he doesn't like it), i told him "i don't feel tickles in my neck", but he woudn't get the hint. please help, help! how can i tell him to do this without sounding demanding or pushy?

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I think you need to just TELL him what to do..  A kiss asked and received is just as valuable as a kiss spontaneously given... IF YOU LET IT BE THAT WAY.  Here's what I want to ask you. What do you truly NEED? Do you need his initiative? his passion? to be kissed? to be aroused? figure that out. THEN you have to be willing to ask for your needs to be filled and NOT worry about HOW they are being filled. By that I mean if you your need is for passion and intimacy, then the fact that you have to ask for it, even though he complies willingly, is irrelevent. You're need is being filled.  I don't think you are pushy to tell him, for example, "kiss me here really slow I like that a lot..."  I don't think you're pushy at all... you deserve to have your needs met, and you deserve to have a passionate, intimate, emotionally available lover. Don't be afraid to ask for what you deserve!  Good Luck! Responded: Dr. Dating   hi names j look i think u guys love each other so much i think u shoud get away go to a hotel u have to show to him that u can turn him on then u have a spark ok i hope it works outs   ur wellcome Responded: Guest