Should I feel hurt? Post a Reply | Views: 1220 | Started By: Lola | Replies: 10 Hi, please, tell me what I should do. It so happened that the day before we had a great sex with my boyfriend. We were going to go on with it yesterday. All day long I told him how much I wanted him. But when I came home after a busy day at the office, I was so tired I could hardly walk. The only thing I wanted was to go to bed. He felt insulted: “You wanted me, you promised me we’ll do it – and now what?,,, “ The problem is that for about 10 days I mustn’t have sex at all, because I’m taking medicine (actually it’s a vaginal medicine) He’s angry with me, he blames me for my yesterday refusal. Now he has to wait for almost two weeks! It seems to me that I must do it every time he wants, no matter if I want it or not. His words hurt me. I told him to find a tart who will give herself to him any time he asks her to. Now I’m at a loss. Should I feel hurt and blame him for his words? I don’t know how to react to his behaviour.

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Pages:    Prev    1   2     I am a female and personally....I totally understand where he is coming from. That would be like him promising to take you ona shopping spree and talked it up all day....and when you got home and ready for the mall, he said he was tired and going to be too busy to take you until 2 weeks. You knd of understand? That is just my point of view. HOWEVER- that doesnt mean that he needs to call you names and talk you down. I go through that with my boyfriend all the time, but instead I am the one let down, and honey in the heat of the moment things are a lot worse than they really are. He shouldn't be THAT mad, but know that he probably isn't as mad as when it is discussed as he would be when he starts to use his head. (the one with the brain inside) Talk to him about your feelings...sometimes that is all it takes. Dont give snappy comments or throw low blows or play the silent treatment...BE HONEST IN HOW IT MAKES YOU FEEL! but know that there was a reason for him to be dissapointed and dissapontment sometimes gets tangled in with anger when it shouldn't. Responded: Guest   Seems like sex is a chore to him, a day to day part of life that has to be done..... but it's not, it's bout 2 people who luv each other and who want to do it when both parties want to... Do u really wana live like this? He shudn't treat u like this if he luvs u...... Wat will happen if u want sex and he is to tired, wat then? Wud u call the names put him down..... Sit down the both of u and talk bout it be4 it's 2 late.... Responded: sygirl   Gonna disagree with most of the posts.As a guy, I've been "promised" things that didn't take place. Now,if you teased him up to the point of sex, then said no, shame on you....but if he can't be understanding, shame on him.He shouldn't call you names under any circumstance.No one should have to do "it" when they don't want to....look in the dictionary under "rape".My ex was rarely not in the mood...one night she asked if I would be mad if we "didn't" that night. I told her I wouldn't be mad...just a little sad (we were only together on the weekends). Not too long after that, her "mood" changed.It's only love if both parties want to do it...otherwise it's plain sex. Responded: fried   Bit** u betta give that man that pus** shid if he want give it up and take the blame for every thing and yes Im a damn women well a girl!! Responded: Bitch thats my name (Suck My Dick And I Dont Got One)   don be sad stay happy Responded: Guest   Pages:    Prev    1   2